It is breath-taking to witness what has become of marriage within our recent iterations. Today we will discuss foundational things which make for a Kingdom marriage. It is important to understand that marriage between a husband and wife has a primary purpose for this life: to produce honor and offspring for God. While marriage is key to finding blessing in the present age, it also has a purpose which modifies and multiplies beyond our lifetime here.
“For when they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.” Mark 12:25
Everything has always been about God’s extension of oneness and goodness throughout His creation (the image of God). A good “God marriage” will result in oneness and honor to God. This will culminate when Jesus’ Bride (the church) joins Him at the marriage supper of the Lamb.
Then he said to me, “Write, ‘Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.’” And he said to me, “These are true words of God.”
Revelation 19:9
So – a Kingdom marriage is one that places the King in the center. This becomes tricky because selfishness and pride seem to follow the sons of Adam and the daughters of Eve wherever we go. To live out an honoring marriage (first of all towards God and then to one another) we must pursue higher principles – or we are destined succumb like our culture.
√ The three-way dynamic – honor above all. When a married man and woman submit each of their wills to their King, the chances for survival and blessing multiply immensely. It becomes “us against the world” rather than having our egos pitted against each other.
√ The quest for humility. “But He gives a greater grace. Therefore it says, “God is opposed to the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” James 4:6-8 When humility reigns in our marriage peace is welcome at our table.
√ Relentless pursuit of what is good. When we live lives of doing good and sharing we not only honor God but also one another. “And do not neglect doing good and sharing, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.” Hebrews 13:16
√ Mutual respect for one another. As long as we consider ourselves better than our partner we will self-destruct.
“To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.” 1 Peter 3:8,9
Peace upon your heart and home!
Dave and Burnadette
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